Post by Force_Flow on Feb 24, 2007 11:21:19 GMT -4
So men are from Mars. It doesn’t mean you can’t figure out how to attract them! Really, the answer is just a couple of planets away – Venus, to be exact.
What makes a man feel attracted to a woman is the same as what makes a woman feel attracted to a man: how you feel in his presence. If he makes you feel good, you’ll be attracted, at least to some degree. If he makes you feel bad, well, no second date!
There are plenty of people out there – men and women – who can make a guy feel lousy. In order to feel good about themselves, men need to feel eight simple things:
If you want a particular man (or just want to lift someone’s spirit), you can use these eight simple rules to help attract a man:
NEEDED: Men need to feel needed. It gives them a sense of purpose in the relationship. Sometimes, when women act as if they don’t need a man, they end up alone and lonely. Of course, this is not to say that you shouldn’t be a strong, assertive woman. It means you should show your vulnerabilities, too. It’ll make him feel less intimidated because he feels vulnerable too, despite the way he may act.
Rule #1: Show your vulnerabilities to attract a man.
DESIRED: Men need to feel desired as much as you do. Many women make the mistake of playing hard to get. Yes, men need a challenge, but they also need their egos stroked. They have the same insecurities as women do, but usually don’t have a group of empathetic ears to rely on after a date. They need to feel that they are attractive to you – that you think they are sexy, handsome, cute, etc.
Rule #2: Compliment his looks, and you’ll look better to him.
CHALLENGED: Men are pursuers – it’s in their genes. Therefore, in order to attract one, you must have a strong sense of yourself: The biggest turnoff for a man is a woman who is insecure and needs constant reassurance from him. In addition, a little mystery is enticing to a man. Don’t give it all up too soon. Let him want to learn more and more about you.
Rule #3: Walk into a room like you own it, keep a few secrets to yourself, and be flirtatious to catch a man’s attention.
FUNNY, SMART, INTERESTING: Men gain a large part of their sense of self from being deemed to exhibit these three characteristics. Ask any man and he will likely tell you that he feels wonderful when the woman he’s interested in laughs at his jokes.
Rules #4, #5, and #6: Listen attentively, nod frequently, compliment him on how smart he is, and laugh at his jokes!
IMPORTANT AND POWERFUL: Men need to feel as if they are the most important person in your life. Moreover, there is virtually nothing more demeaning to a man than to be scolded in public, told what to do, or to not be the center of your world when you are together. Of course, this isn’t to say you have to sit pretty and ignore his bantering – just pick a private place to address personal issues, even if it means waiting, and speak respectfully, which you should expect in return.
Rules #7 and #8: When you are together, don’t look around at other men, compliment another man on his looks, or talk about other men.
It doesn’t take much to make a man feel like a million bucks. In return, you’ll reap the rewards of your investment – a man who treats you like a million bucks, as well.
What makes a man feel attracted to a woman is the same as what makes a woman feel attracted to a man: how you feel in his presence. If he makes you feel good, you’ll be attracted, at least to some degree. If he makes you feel bad, well, no second date!
There are plenty of people out there – men and women – who can make a guy feel lousy. In order to feel good about themselves, men need to feel eight simple things:
- Needed
- Desired
- Challenged
- Funny
- Smart
- Interesting
- Important
- Powerful
If you want a particular man (or just want to lift someone’s spirit), you can use these eight simple rules to help attract a man:
NEEDED: Men need to feel needed. It gives them a sense of purpose in the relationship. Sometimes, when women act as if they don’t need a man, they end up alone and lonely. Of course, this is not to say that you shouldn’t be a strong, assertive woman. It means you should show your vulnerabilities, too. It’ll make him feel less intimidated because he feels vulnerable too, despite the way he may act.
Rule #1: Show your vulnerabilities to attract a man.
DESIRED: Men need to feel desired as much as you do. Many women make the mistake of playing hard to get. Yes, men need a challenge, but they also need their egos stroked. They have the same insecurities as women do, but usually don’t have a group of empathetic ears to rely on after a date. They need to feel that they are attractive to you – that you think they are sexy, handsome, cute, etc.
Rule #2: Compliment his looks, and you’ll look better to him.
CHALLENGED: Men are pursuers – it’s in their genes. Therefore, in order to attract one, you must have a strong sense of yourself: The biggest turnoff for a man is a woman who is insecure and needs constant reassurance from him. In addition, a little mystery is enticing to a man. Don’t give it all up too soon. Let him want to learn more and more about you.
Rule #3: Walk into a room like you own it, keep a few secrets to yourself, and be flirtatious to catch a man’s attention.
FUNNY, SMART, INTERESTING: Men gain a large part of their sense of self from being deemed to exhibit these three characteristics. Ask any man and he will likely tell you that he feels wonderful when the woman he’s interested in laughs at his jokes.
Rules #4, #5, and #6: Listen attentively, nod frequently, compliment him on how smart he is, and laugh at his jokes!
IMPORTANT AND POWERFUL: Men need to feel as if they are the most important person in your life. Moreover, there is virtually nothing more demeaning to a man than to be scolded in public, told what to do, or to not be the center of your world when you are together. Of course, this isn’t to say you have to sit pretty and ignore his bantering – just pick a private place to address personal issues, even if it means waiting, and speak respectfully, which you should expect in return.
Rules #7 and #8: When you are together, don’t look around at other men, compliment another man on his looks, or talk about other men.
It doesn’t take much to make a man feel like a million bucks. In return, you’ll reap the rewards of your investment – a man who treats you like a million bucks, as well.
